The Best of Vulva Massage

Letta Neely begins with slow and easy touching, caressing her whole body. As her session evolves, she focuses more on arousal and excitement. “Learn your body,” she chants. Her message to all of us is “Liberate yourself.” For poet Letta Neely, liberation comes from knowing and validating herself in her solo erotic practice. “Masturbation keeps me sane. Masturbating centers me. Touching myself helps me know that I matter. It helps me remember that I matter. It helps me understand that I matter. When I touch myself, I know I am here right now. And all that I have is here right now. I try to make sure that I claim myself each day and it either starts or ends with masturbation.” Letta is a poet and performance artist.

Give your partner a full body massage before focusing on her vulva. Once you both are ready, Jaiya offers an astonishingly beautiful teaching, showing ways to begin to touch the vulva— with breathing, eye gazing, quiet pressure, patting, drumming, tapping, cupping, and vibrating. Three loving couples show how to build sexual trust with their hands and their hearts. Jaiya guides you in awakening your lover’s body and your own with this lesson from her comprehensive erotic massage course: Red Hot Touch for Lovers.

Massaging the clitoris makes it bigger, firmer, and more erect. Annie Sprinkle’s advice is to start with a feather light touch. Extreme camera close-ups allow us to see David’s fingers expertly varying pressure, movement, and rhythm on Rachel’s clitoral hood and surrounding tissues. Letta shows us the classic finger circle stroke on her own clitoris. She knows exactly the pressure she likes. Betsy demonstrates the doorbell touch on Emilie’s clitoris. She pushes firmly in rhythm with Emilie’s breathing. If you only learn one clitoral massage stroke, let it be the stroke where David gathers the labia in toward the clitoris, again and again. Following that wonderful stroke, David and Betsy both demonstrate acupressure points around the clitoris, a stroke named “Rock around the Clit Clock.” There are sex cults based on repeated and mindful stroking of the acupressure point found at two o’clock. Annie Sprinkle reminds us “The woman receiving is in charge of how she is touched. So ask her!” This astonishing clitoral massage is one pleasurable part of The New School of Erotic Touch’s most popular course Female Genital Massage. 

Sex coach Betty Dodson PhD invented the term "sex coaching." Sweet Caryn comes to Betty Dodson, the orgasm doctor, with a situation: "I don't know how to use my fingers or my hands to get myself off. And I freeze up when my boyfriend touches me. I wish I knew how to incorporate masturbating into partner sex." Betty says, "Ok, we'll work on that." Betty starts the session with a tour of Caryn's vulva. Extreme camera close-ups allow us to see places that Caryn has never seen. We then witness Betty's expert coaching of Caryn's self touch. Knowing that changes don't happen in one session, Betty tells Caryn she must “Practice. Practice. Practice.” Notice Betty's expertise in all aspects of orgasm coaching:  giving permission and encouragement, witnessing, offering instruction, reframing the erotic experience and guiding our placement of attention. Betty's coaching technique has been studied and validated in peer reviewed journals. 

For fifty years, Betty Dodson taught and coached women about orgasms and masturbation. In this clip we meet Carol, a 26-year-old medical student, who is not sure where her clitoris resides. Dr. Dodson gives Carol one of her famous vulva anatomy lessons and then shows her several simple ways she can begin pleasuring herself. Betty reminds us that many ancient cultures worshiped the vulva. From the DVD Celebrating Orgasm. Betty’s coaching technique has been validated in peer reviewed journals.

Erotically-gifted Elizabeth brings herself to several explosive orgasmic ejaculations. Her message to all women is to let go and embody your pleasure. This practice involves a placement of attention on the urethral sponge, coupled with stimulation and pressure from a finger or toy. This can be a new experience for many women.  At the beginning of the practice, some women experience numbness or even pain. But with continued exploration and patience, tissues reawaken and pleasure becomes possible. Deborah Sundahl, the major teacher of female ejaculation, tells of several months of practice before she even felt pleasure in her urethral sponge area. Elizabeth’s message to all women is to let go and embody your pleasure. Fifteen San Francisco artists, musicians, dancers and poets contribute to this visionary journey into the ecstatic dimensions of female ejaculation. You can experience the entire 90-minute journey in Divine Nectar: Exploring Female Ejaculation.

Jaiya guides you in doubling her pleasure. After deeply relaxing the vagina and anal sphincters with massage, insert one finger in her anus and two fingers in her vagina, touching both her g-spot and her a-spot, located on the deepest part of the urethral sponge. Then pleasure her clitoris with your thumb. You are now massaging four different erogenous zones at the same time. Jaiya's demonstration will guide your practice.

The walls of the vagina are rich with unexplored pleasure zones. Each woman has her own landscape of sensitive nerve endings. Let your fingers wake up her special treasure map. While receiving internal touch, Jaiya models intimate communication—with her hands and with her words. Ever the pleasure activist, Jaiya also demonstrates how to massage the clitoris, the G-spot and the A-spot at the same time. This vaginal mapping lesson is from Jaiya's comprehensive erotic massage course: Red Hot Touch for Lovers.

Every vulva is an entire erotic universe waiting to be explored. Joseph Kramer, assisted by Annie Sprinkle, artfully filmed extreme vulva close-ups of eleven of their erotically gifted friends. The original filming of each vulva lasted between fifteen minutes and an hour. He then chose the ten minutes from each participant for his DVD, Zen Pussy. This video shows just one minute of each "mons mandala." Notice how different breathing patterns move the genitals. Contemplating vulva can stimulate creativity, access ancient wisdom, dispel shame, bring about enlightenment and arouse plenty of good, old-fashioned pleasure. 
 
Three of the pussies belong to Urban Tantra teacher Barbara Carrellas, trans activist Kate Bornstein and performance artist Annie Sprinkle.

The Hitachi Magic Wand is the Rolls Royce of vibrators. Emilie discovers that she enjoys the vibrator best when cushioned by Betsy’s hand. During a breathing meditation, Letta gently traces mandalas on her vulva with her Hitachi. From years of conscious lovemaking, David knows how best to touch Rachel with her vibrator. Betsy delights her partner with Hitachi journeys up the body to her heart and breasts. Letta ends her self-loving session by ecstatically vibrating herself from the soles of her feet to the top of her head. “And in the end the love you take is equal to the love you make.” Good Vibrations is just one pleasurable lesson from EroticMassage.com's most popular course Fire in the Valley - Female Genital Massage.

Jaiya teaches lovers how to use their hands creatively during intercourse. In this segment, she demonstrates pressing the outer labia inward as she is being penetrated. For even more pleasure, she uses circular movements to press the labia in toward the penis. She pleasures her own clitoris while varying pressure on her partner’s erection. Jaiya delights when her lover uses his penis to massage and tap her clitoris. This feels great for the man also.

Do you know the most pleasurable places on your lover’s genitals? Jaiya demonstrates for us her favorite clitoral strokes - massaging the clit through the labia, tapping the head of the clit with a finger, and stroking the shaft of the clitoris through the hood. If your clitoris liked this mini-lesson, check out Jaiya's comprehensive erotic massage course: Red Hot Touch for Lovers.

Anastasia is an erotically-gifted, embodied young woman. While she is receiving a genital massage from Destin, she is actively waking her own body with movement, self-touch, and sound. We are privileged to witness her going deep into her feelings.

Being over sixty certainly doesn’t mean you have to stop having fun! Rachel and Vince, a long-term erotic couple, regularly delight in each other’s bodies with childlike curiosity. Rachel takes charge of her sexual experience by telling Vince exactly what she wants. Note the use of creative and ergonomic sexual positions to increase arousal and intimacy.

Some Australian Tantric friends of Annie gave her the name "Mahamudra," which they said meant "Cosmic Orgasm of Love." Dr. Annie Sprinkle, with the help of two assistants and a Hitachi Magic Wand, takes us on a phenomenal ride as she literally charts her five-minute-long megagasm. Annie shows us there are no limits on what is erotically possible. Annie’s orgasm takes her into a raw, animalistic and voracious chaos. Annie describes one function of the megagasm as a type of sexual/emotional cleansing: “You can clear out all of the emotional muck.” From Annie's video course Sluts and Goddesses or How to Be a Sex Goddess.

Pleasure is a mixture of excitement and bliss. Some of us focus just on the excitement. Annie Sprinkle’s sex wisdom is that bliss and “the afterglow” are as important as the excitement. In this video clip from How to Be a Sex Goddess, Annie leads a female masturbation ritual. Notice the emphasis on savoring as well as on stimulation.

Victor and Jwala create a ritual to help Jwala reclaim her sexuality after menopause. Joseph Kramer and Annie Sprinkle agree that this erotic massage set is one of the best ever filmed. Some talk distracts from love-making. Jwala's clear verbal communication deepens their physical connection. Vulva massage can free deeply held emotions.  Jwala and Victor demonstrate how to stay present through emotional release.

Annie and two friends play with oral sex, spanking, intercourse, hand sex, ejaculation, and sustained sexual arousal. Annie’s famous five minute megagasm will inspire you. “Orgasms are a path to truth and to the meaning of life.”