Lovers Getting Started with Erotic Massage

Many of us have habitual ways of touching, so our lover’s guidance can help us to discover unexplored realms of pleasure. Destin massages Anastasia’s vulva with patience, passion and expertise, but Anastasia knows she is responsible for her own experience and offers an excellent example of active receiving. Notice how she dances on the table and guides Destin's touch. Practices like this one expands our erotic capacities. In the end, she relaxes into bliss and integration. What a gift she gives to herself!

In this session, Destin sets an intention to go into the role of receiver, allowing Anastasia to give him pleasure without needing to give back pleasure in the immediate. This separation of giving and receiving is how erotic massage differs from conventional lovemaking. Notice how Destin participates in his massage. When Destin later watched this video, he noticed how troubled his breathing was on both the inhale and the exhale. This insight motivated him to become a better breath teacher.  He suggests that you breathe along with him but make your breath effortless, like a gentle breeze flowing in and out of your body.

Anastasia makes giving touch a dance. She loves to move, even on top of Destin on the massage table. A core massage lesson: the giver needs to enjoy the session as much as the receiver. Giving a session on a bed is almost never comfortable for the giver. Every couple should invest in a massage table for erotic massage dancing.

We learn massage through practice. Follow along with Anastasia and Destin, as they demonstrate their favorite ways to touch each other’s genitals.

Anastasia and Destin breathe together while Anastasia strokes in rhythm to the breath. As the excitement builds, Destin practices a “little Big Draw” in which he pauses his breathing, clenches his pelvic muscles, and then releases fully. The Big Draw creates a shift from high excitement to bliss.