Deliberate Practice is the most effective way to learn any new skill, including erotic skills. When using Deliberate Practice, how much you learn depends more on how you practice than on merely performing a skill a number of times. The following guidance from Deliberate Practice can help you and your clients learn the most from your practice sessions by making them efficient and effective.
State aloud your motivations and intentions for your practice before each session. Don’t look for vague improvement – be specific. Your goals should be challenging yet achievable within each session.
Practicing without mindful attention is wasted practice. Your full attention is necessary when you practice new and unfamiliar ways of behaving sexually. The focus and precision of your attention is what provides learning and allows you to move away from mindless sexual habits.
Optimal learning involves feedback on every practice session. Feedback can come from a variety of sources. The best feedback you can get is from a knowledgeable coach or teacher. Make use of the master erotic bodyworkers in the video demonstrations. Emulate their precise movements, again and again. Peers and clients can also provide helpful guidance. Filming your practice (and reviewing the video while taking notes) can show you adjustments you might make to improve future practice sessions.
Take some time at the end of each practice session to reflect on and feel what happened in the session. This quiet time allows the learning to move from short-term memory to long-term memory, integrating the learning into your body for future use.
If you would like more depth about Deliberate Practice, check out Erik Hamre’s essay. Be sure to look at Erik’s 100-hour challenges, where he describes using Deliberate Practice for 100 hours to learn chess, Spanish, Thai Massage, Ultimate Frisbee, Yoga, Salsa Dancing and other fun things.