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Accessing Erotic Trance for Men

By: Ed Ehrgott C.S.B.

Ed EhrgottHow did you learn to pleasure yourself?

If you're like many men, you learned as a child. Most of us first explored masturbation when we were between 11 and 14 years old. How old are you now? Does the way you learned when you were a child still support and nourish you today? Most men haven't changed the way we pleasure ourselves since that time.

Often masturbation becomes a way of coping with uncontrolled emotions - including boredom. Many men find that masturbation becomes habitual. We may focus on some outside stimulus like porn - rather than on focusing on what we're feeling in our body. Other men masturbate to quickly relieve tension. Sometimes men find that masturbation becomes a daily habit rather than a truly pleasurable experience.

What would happen if we learned how to masturbate for hours rather than minutes? What if we looked at masturbation as a way to access ecstatic states? What if we looked at masturbation as a spiritual experience?

During this time that we have together, I intend to help and show you how you can access prolonged ecstatic states through masturbation.

Every man is capable of inducing erotic trance states without any drugs.

We've all experienced various types of trance - perhaps a work trance or an exercise trance. Erotic trance is no different. Erotic trance is the state where you are so aware of your erotic energy that everything else fades away. The noisy mind is quiet and your only focus is on what you're feeling. There's no magic to accessing erotic trance, but it does take some practice.

I invite you to participate with me during this tutorial. We learn things by doing - not by reading about it or watching someone else do it. While I'll be offering examples and demonstrations, the best way for you to learn is to experience it for yourself.

Please set aside some time for the exercises I'll be showing you. Make a date with yourself. Put it on your calendar. Ensure that you won't be disturbed. There's just no substitute for experiencing this for yourself. Imagine reading a text that describes what an orgasm feels like. This isn't the same as experiencing one! This is best if it's a hands on experience!

 

A bit about me

Before we begin this journey, I thought it would be helpful for you to know a bit about me and my personal journey with erotic trance and masturbation. I first learned about masturbation, like most men, from my friends. I was 11 years old when my friends told me of this wonderful activity I could do with myself. From the first time, I was mesmerized. I vividly remember the wonderful feelings that came to me - even if I wasn't old enough yet to ejaculate. Something definitely grabbed me and hasn't let go since.

As I grew older I thought that masturbation was 'second best.' It would do if no one else was available, but erotic activity with someone else was somehow better. I threw myself into dating and relationships. I met many wonderful people, but could just never hit it off erotically.

In college I came out as a man erotically attracted to other men. Part of my internal struggle with coming to terms with my sexuality also led me to begin a life-long exploration of masturbation. I came to terms with my own masturbation. I realized that it would not be possible for me to be in an erotic relationship with another man until I first was in an erotic relationship with myself.

As I further dove into auto-erotic exploration I stumbled on an amazing thing - the longer I masturbated without ejaculating the more likely I was to reach incredible states of erotic ecstasy. At first, I thought this was some kind of magick only for me; but eventually I realized that many people were reaching these incredible states.

Through my experiences I came to realize that the feelings of ejaculation are a sacred gift to men, and that there are many additional states that are possible by shifting my focus away from ejaculation. Many words have been written on the pros and cons of ejaculation. I've come to practice the concept of conscious ejaculation - doing it consciously and surrendering to the pleasure. While we're on the subject of ejaculation... I also strongly believe in the importance of honoring semen. Many men look at semen as a mess to wipe up afterwards. I believe it's important to honor it by consciously doing something with it. As examples, anointing yourself with your semen or eating or licking your semen are both wonderful ways to honor your body.

As I continued on my journey, one of the most powerful realizations for me was a recognition and celebration of my inner beast. I spent many years repressing this part of me because I was afraid of it. After a lot of self-reflection, I came to honor the beast. It is the beast that makes me who I am. It is the beast that drives me to my goals. It is the beast that is erotic. Being afraid of my inner beast was, to me, like being afraid of my penis.

I've come to celebrate the beast in my masturbation rituals. I am quite vocal in letting the beast come out to play. I've come to accept the beast as a benevolent part of me that just wants to play and express himself. The beast is both the power and the pleasure that comes from my core. I celebrate him during my masturbation!

To me there's also a spiritual dimension to masturbating mindfully. The pleasure I've felt during Mindful Masturbation has helped me past body shame concerns. I've come to appreciate being in my body - which has helped me to greatly improve my feelings about myself. I've learned the importance of taking care of my body and I am in awe of the higher power that created it for me.

I’d like to acknowledge you for your courage to explore this area. I'm looking forward to helping you with this journey.

 

Breathe!

The key to erotic trance is a conscious focus on the breath. Most men, when experiencing increased erotic energy, tend to hold the breath and tense the muscles. These actions keep the erotic energy from circulating throughout the body. This first exercise is intended to help you focus on your breath and also to slow down the 'normal' masturbation experience.

Assignment

Plan on a time when you can be alone and undisturbed. You may want to turn your telephone off. Find a comfortable place where you can relax. Throughout these exercises I strongly recommend that you have a mirror close by where you can observe your body. This is especially important for men who are visually oriented - these men use their visual sense more than other senses.

Most men masturbate for under 15 minutes before ejaculation. For this exercise you'll be breathing for 15 minutes. You may want to have a clock visible.

Position the mirror where you can see your face and most of your body. Create an atmosphere that is comforting for you. This may include candles, music, items of personal significance, or erotic toys. Use whatever works for you. I strongly recommend that you do not use porn. Porn can be a wonderful thing, but for this tutorial I invite you to put it away.

Begin the exercise by closing your eyes and checking in with your body. Note any areas that are tight or relaxed. Try not to judge your feelings - just note them. Scan your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes.

As you're doing this check-in open your mouth and take nice deep slow breaths. Make some noise with your breath. Keep the effort only on the inhale. Let the exhale fall; there's no need to push the exhale out.

As you're breathing be aware of your cock and balls. There's no need to touch them yet - just be aware that they exist. Feel your cock and balls hang. Be aware of the muscles in your pelvis. See if you can relax these muscles on the inhale. This is easier if you breathe into your belly rather than your chest.

 

Movement


Movement helps to not only wake up the body but it also helps us move erotic energy throughout the body. There are many ways to move the body. Some of us like to run. Others like to stretch. Some may prefer yoga. I encourage you to develop a movement routine that works for you and your body.

Assignment

This exercise is focused on movement around erotic energy. Begin by planning on a time when you can be alone and undisturbed. You may want to turn your telephone off. Find a comfortable place where you can relax.

Create an atmosphere that is comforting for you. Find a place where you can freely move around. Lay down and extend your arms and legs to make sure you have enough room. Begin the exercise by closing your eyes and checking in with your body. Note any areas that are tight or that are relaxed. Try not to judge you feelings – just note them. Scan your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes.

Begin by breathing just as in the prior exercise. Each exercise build on the previous ones, so don’t forget to breathe! Begin by making yourself comfortable on the floor. Then stretch your arms and then your legs. Be sure to also include your hands and fingers. Start with slow deliberate movement. The intention is to wake up the body. The particular stretching technique you use isn’t that important for this. The important thing here is to move the body, so do whatever is comfortable for you.

As you feel your body warm up you may also want to include some aerobic activity. Jump. Run in place. Kick your legs. Sweat is good! Just remember that this is a prelude to masturbation, so there’s no need to exhaust yourself.

Include your cock and balls in the movement. Wake up your genitals. Rotate your hips so that your cock and balls gently slap against your thigh. Feel free to include some touch. Don’t focus on generating lots of erotic energy, but begin with some light touch and movement. Wake up your body and prepare for new levels of pleasure.

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Here, I stretch and warm up my body in preparation for a masturbation session.

 

Reverse Genital Hole

Infants are naturally curious about their bodies. Baby boys touch themselves everywhere they can. As infants we learn that touch to our genitals is pleasurable. However, this natural exploration is usually discouraged. We quickly learn that genital touch is something to be ashamed of. As we grow older most of us are torn between the pleasurable feelings of self touch and the guilt imposed by our culture.

This causes us to develop guilt and shame around self touch. We enjoy touching ourselves because it feels good. However, others clearly disapprove of such touch. This causes continual mental conflict over self touch. As a result many men develop what has been called the ‘genital hole.’ We become conditioned to ignore the feelings and sensations in our genitals. Some of us become numb.

For many of us when we begin self touch our attention focuses entirely on our genitals. We ignore the rest of our body. It’s as if we live in two worlds: no genitals and only genitals. I believe that it’s important to engage the entire body when masturbating.

Assignment

For this exercise find a comfortable spot and plan on a time when you can be alone and undisturbed. You may want to turn your telephone off. Position your mirror where you can see your face and most of your body. Create an atmosphere that is comforting for you. This may include candles, music, items of personal significance, or erotic toys. Use whatever works for you.

Begin the exercise by closing your eyes and checking in with your body. Note any areas that are tight or relaxed. Try not to judge your feelings – just note them. Scan your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes.

Create an intention to erotically touch all of your body. Begin with the top of your head. Include your face and ears. Slowly caress your arms. Feel the sensation of your touch on the hairs of your skin. Caress your hands. Move to your chest. Play with your nipples. Include your belly with your touch. Most of us ignore our bellies –some of us are ashamed of this part of our body. Make love to your belly.

Include erotic touch of your cock and balls. Use slow deliberate touch. Although you don’t need an erection, enjoy it if you have an erection. Tickle your balls and your perineum. Caress the tender places on the inside of your legs. Include your feet and toes.

Erotically wake up your entire body. Yes, your cock and balls can generate lots of erotic energy. But so can the rest of your body.

 

The First 15-20 Minutes

Most of us learned to masturbate when we were much younger. At this time in our lives we learned that we needed to hide our pleasure from others – like parents or siblings. This required us to be very efficient about masturbation. We learned to be quick and quiet. For some of us this habit carried into adulthood. We needed to be quick and quiet to hide our masturbation from roommates, partners or spouses. This results in a lifetime of quick hidden masturbation.

This habit conditioned our bodies to ejaculate quickly. As a result many of us have the conditioning to cum quickly whenever we begin masturbation.

Assignment

The focus of this exercise is to recondition our bodies. This is about learning to build pleasure. It’s not about ‘controlling’ ejaculation. You may find that you need a lot of practice with this exercise. That’s okay, reconditioning takes time. Don’t beat yourself up if you aren’t able to do this exercise right away. If you ejaculate before you intend to, learn how to read your body and the signs of ejaculatory inevitability.

Plan on a time when you can be alone and undisturbed. You may want to turn your telephone off. Find a comfortable place where you can relax. Throughout these exercises I strongly recommend that you have a mirror close by where you can observe your body. This is especially important for men who are visually oriented – these men use their visual sense more than other senses.

For most men if we can last 15 to 20 minutes masturbating and not ejaculate it’s much easier to continue on. So, we’re going to masturbate for 15 to 20 minutes with the intention to not ejaculate. You may want to have a clock visible so you can see how long you’ve been masturbating.

As with the previous exercises find a place where you won’t be disturbed and make yourself comfortable. I do recommend using a mirror.

The key to building pleasure is to vary the pace and the strokes. Most of us are used to doing the ‘piston’ stroke – the usual up down stroke with a fist. I recommend that you vary the pace. Try using a ‘backhand’ stroke – reversing your hand as you stroke. Most of us have a dominant hand that we use for masturbation – you may want to switch hands. Include some light pulling and tugging of your balls. Include your perineum. There are some great strokes in the erotic massage educational videos that can be used for masturbation. Try twist and shout, or juicer. Rock around the clock is a great stroke for masturbation – especially if you use both hands!

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Here I show techniques I use in the first 15-20 minutes to have a prolonged erotic state.

 

Excitement and Enjoyment

This exercise is focused on the distinction between excitement and enjoyment. All pleasure involves two polar opposites: “interest-excitement” and “enjoyment-joy.” Interest-Excitement is felt in the body as an increase in neurological firings. Excitement is that phase where our erotic energy is increasing, progressing upwards on a curve leading towards orgasm and ejaculation. Our energies are focused on increasing the level of sexual energy.

Enjoyment-Joy is felt in the body as a decrease in neurological firings. Enjoyment is focused on simply experiencing the pleasurable feelings. The focus here isn’t on increasing the erotic energy as much as it is focused on experiencing that energy.

A complete pleasure cycle usually involves the build up of excitement followed by a period of enjoyment.

Most of us are better are experiencing excitement than experiencing enjoyment. One of the ways of getting into an erotic trance state is to alternate consciously between excitement and enjoyment.

The challenge is that when masturbating, we are actively involved. There is no partner who can continue to touch and help us dive into enjoyment. The invitation for this exercise is to periodically dive into enjoyment. You may find that this is a bit awkward at first. That’s okay. Practice will help you develop the skill to alternate between excitement and enjoyment.

Assignment

As with the other exercises, plan on a time when you can be alone and undisturbed. You may want to turn your telephone off. Find a comfortable place where you can relax. After you’ve mastered masturbating for 15 to 20 minutes without ejaculating, it’s time to begin this exercise.

When you find yourself getting to the place where you feel somewhat close to orgasm, back off on your strokes. Stop building excitement. Instead, spend some time focusing on the pleasurable sensations in your body. Enjoy the feelings!

You may want to scan your body in a way similar to what we did during the breathing exercise earlier. Scan your body from head to toe and become aware of what you notice. Enjoy the waves of pleasure that you may be experiencing. When you feel ready to increase the erotic excitement, feel free to resume generating erotic energy. Freely switch back and forth between the two modes.

Spend time enjoying and savoring! Don't get hung up on erections. Erections come and go - it's a natural cycle. Don't focus on maintaining your erection; rather, focus on the pleasure and note the distinction in feelings between masturbating with an erection and without. Be present to the feelings in your body.

Savor and enjoy.


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In this video, pay special attention to my alternating between excitement and enjoyment.