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Women Speak Up About the G-Spot

By: Jaiya and Jon Hanauer

Jaiya and Jon have created Red Hot Touch a 5-DVD course in erotic massage for lovers.  You can stream or download this course immediately here.  

There was a recent study in the UK that questioned whether or not the g-spot existed. The findings of the study suggested that the g-spot was a myth. The premise of the study was to ask female identical twins if they had a g-spot. If both twins didn’t say that they had one, then the study went on to form a theory that the g-spot may be a figment of our imaginations. Of course the media got hold of the study and went wild with it. Headlines began to appear stating that the g-spot didn’t exist, that it was all in our heads. We were contacted to comment on it and many of our fellow sex educators began a counter attack. And women everywhere are speaking out. "Yes, we do too have a g-spot!"

Here’s our two cents.

Of course the g-spot exists, but here is what most people don’t know and why it is so hard to find. First of all it isn’t a spot at all, but more like an area or a crest of sensitive tissue. Most people think that they are looking for a localized spot with a certain shape or size. The truth is that every woman’s is different, just like we have different fingerprints; our g-spot prints are different. The reason why the study isn’t very good science is that they don’t take into account the fact that women experience this area in very different ways and may have different levels of sensitivity based on bio-mechanics, bio-chemistry, emotional development and scar tissue. In other words, the g-spot will be different in every single human being, so we aren’t all looking for the same thing or the same sensation.

Here’s what we are looking for. The g-spot has a head, body and tail that make up the entire area. The head is the Urethral Opening, every woman will have one unless there has been some major trauma to it or she has a birth defect. You can see the Urethral Opening just above the Vaginal Opening. It is a tiny hole from which urine or female ejaculate is expelled. The body of the g-spot has a number of different anatomical names. Deborah Sundahl, author of The G-Spot and Female Ejaculation, calls it the Female Prostate. It is also known as the Urethral Sponge, and is located on the front wall of the vagina or roof of the vagina if the woman is lying down. This is a tube of erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra and fills with fluid during arousal. The important thing to note is that women have higher concentrations of this sensitive tissue in three different areas. The majority of women have most of the erectile tissue near the opening to their vagina, the second place is further inside near the g-spot tail (more on that later), and the third area is in the center of the urethral sponge. This sensitive tissue will feel similar to the ridges on the roof of your mouth when it is aroused. And finally, the g-spot tail, which is about 3-4 inches inside of the vaginal cavity on the front wall. This is also referred to as the Anterior Fornix Zone or the A-spot. This area is even more sensitive in some women who have concentrations of erectile tissue closer to the back of the urethral sponge.

Secondly, the g-spot or g-area will have a variety of sensations based on the type of woman. A g-spot may feel numb, may feel pleasurable, may feel painful, and/or may have the sensation of having to urinate. This variety of sensations is based on many things. Does the woman have scar tissue from an injury, trauma or chronic infection in the area? Are there tight muscles or ligaments affecting the area? What is her emotional state? Is she relaxed or afraid? What is her blood chemistry like? Where is she on her cycle? Is she fully aroused when she is touching her g-spot? Has she recently ejaculated? These are all things to take into consideration as they all affect the look, feel and pleasure available in this tissue.

Thirdly, how is the g-spot being stimulated? The use of fingers will produce a much different sensation than that of a toy. And not just that, but how is the finger or toy being used. The best way to touch the g-spot area is to move the tissue as opposed to just moving friction over the area. To do this, anchor your finger into the tissue by pressing into it and then move the surface tissue over the deeper structures. It is most important to be aware that the g-spot area will change with different arousal levels, just like the firmness of an erection changes in a male penis. The level of pleasure will change. Take time exploring and finding what is most pleasurable on any given day.

Jaiya and Jon have created Red Hot Touch a 5-DVD course in erotic massage for lovers.  You can stream or download this course immediately here