David Guy
Joseph Kramer is warm, friendly, affectionate, expansive, and just slightly – shall we say – hyper. He had recently turned fifty when I visited him at his home in Oakland, but there is something boyish about him, like a boy genius who can’t keep the words from flowing. He kept reaching out to grab me as we walked along the sidewalk to
lunch, as if to make sure we were still in touch; he constantly - as a
practitioner of rebirthing – took in large gusts of air and let them
out with an audible sigh; he frequently burst into shouts of
barrel-chested laughter; and as we sat together at a sushi bar he let
out audible murmurs of pleasure at tastes. He took delight in
everything, even – it seemed – our footsteps as we strolled along the
sidewalk.
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Loren Johnson
Sexual energy is one of the greatest powers we have access to in the
human realm. Learning to tap that creative, life giving force in a
skillful way is the objective of the various tantric sexual practices.
Sexual kung fu, the Chinese medical form of tantric sex, literally
means skillful practice of sex.
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Barnaby Barratt Ph.D.
Although no teaching about this path can substitute for our immediate
experience in its practice, there is a role for tantric facilitators,
who are neither priests nor professors, but individuals who can share
some “pointers” derived from the practices of their own enlightening.
Drawing upon the wisdom of many tantric facilitators, here are thirteen
interrelated pointers. They are all different ways of expressing the
same three principles of method. May they be helpful for our
mindfulness as we dance into our spiritual practice.
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Ed Ehrgott
There are so many ways to experience solo pleasure. It's also easy to
develop habits. Of course, habits can be both helpful and restrictive.
Pleasurable habits can certainly feel great, but may also inhibit our
exploration. I invite you to take a look at the way you make love to
yourself and explore additional options.
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Joseph Kramer Ph.D.
In my twenty years of teaching, my most profound experiences have
involved a form of erotic bodywork called Taoist Erotic Massage. This
massage often takes men and women into erotic trance states. The
rhythmic breathing and genital stimulation of a Taoist Erotic Massage
activate a prolonged, orgasmic glide. I have witnessed thousands of
men and women access this astonishing state. This expanded full-body
orgasm is the cutting edge of sex education today!
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Ben Haggard
Ever since I learned Taoist Erotic Massage (TEM) sixteen years ago,
I've been a man with a mission. Prior to that I was trained as a
massage therapist, and I learned not only the strengths of massage
therapy but also some of its prejudices and weaknesses. I have come to
believe that one of the most profound weaknesses in the way massage is
conventionally taught is the taboo against including erotic touch in
the massage. This taboo is so widespread and so strong that it is hardly
questioned within conventional massage modalities. However, I believe
this taboo is actually harmful and runs counter to the deepest and most
central principles of massage therapy.
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Joseph Kramer Ph.D.
I first heard of San Francisco psychologist Jack Morin in Andrew
Holleran's 1978 novel,
Dancer from the Dance where there is a short
mention of a group of men in San Francisco doing anal therapy together.
That was Jack. Probably more than any single person, Jack counseled and
coached me through the pitfalls of graduate school to my exalted status
as a Ph.D. in human sexuality.
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Joseph Kramer Ph.D.
This essay explores four different approaches to using massage to
benefit couples' sexual well-being. William Hartman and Marilyn Fithian
use foot, face and body caressing with all clients seeking to overcome
sexual dysfunction. Ray Stubbs recommends "Pleasure Mapping" to couples
who wish to enhance their lovemaking. Jack Morin advocates erotic
massage for long-term couples who wish to keep sex a priority. Alan and
Donna Brauer suggest massage should be a language that couples speak to
each other.
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Barbara Carrellas
Sex, whether Tantric or not, involves touch. Lots of touch. Traditional
sex guides usually discuss which body parts to touch, when to touch it,
and how fast to touch it. This is great, as far as it goes. But in
Tantra, we want to go a step further. We want to become the touch. In
order to do that, we need to find the narrow realm of touch that lies
between too much pressure and too little. When you touch a body, you
want to touch deeply enough that the body pushes back just a little. If
a muscle becomes rigid under your touch, you've gone too far. If the
muscle feels flaccid, you haven't gone far enough.
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Barnaby Barratt Ph.D.
Pernicious religious doctrines, political legislation, social
convention., cultural mores and folkloric dogma all focus on our
genitals in an adverse manner. “Masturbation” and “fornication”, both
heterosexual and homosexual are usually designated the paramount “sins”
against which all sorts of moralizing ideologies are promulgated.
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